How to Be Positive in a Negative Situation

How to be positive

Have you ever met someone who never seems to let the negative things in life bring them down? Someone who’s oddly upbeat while in a terrible situation? It’s as if you just spotted a full-grown, majestic unicorn standing in the middle of a busy street. The magical beast seems almost oblivious to the terrible situation it is surrounded by as she holds her head high; the sun glaring off her sparkling horn. How can this be? Is it possible that you too can learn how to be authentically positive in a negative situation?

Unicorns DO Exist

They do, for reals. If you don’t believe me, think about a time when you saw someone going through an awful tragedy, yet they remained hopeful. Chances are…they were (or are) a unicorn. Consider how Peter and the other Apostles responded to being beaten for sharing the good news about Jesus Christ:

“…and when they had called in the apostles, they beat them and charged them not to speak in the name of Jesus, and let them go. Then they left the presence of the council, rejoicing that they were counted worthy to suffer dishonor for the name. And every day, in the temple and from house to house, they did not cease teaching and preaching that the Christ is Jesus.” – Acts 5:40-42

What an amazing response to a terrible situation! Instead of dwelling in “defeat” they used this event for the good. They used it to fuel their passion to spread the Gospel! They were unicorns who used their magical Jesus powers to purify the toxic attitude of the oppressive religious leaders.

For Self-Conscious Unicorns

By the way, if the idea of being a resilient, life-giving, beautiful unicorn is somehow too frilly for you (I’m looking mostly at you masculine folk out there), then you just might be a resilient, life-giving, beautiful rhino. They aren’t troubled by the little problems in life and when a big issue DOES show up they know how to charge it! Plus, they also have a cool horn. 

The Battle Starts in the Mind

Every day you are going to have negative thoughts and emotions in reaction to life’s junk. The good news is that you have Jesus power harnessed in your 12 inch horn. You are ready to unleash a holy beam of thinking to cleanse these unclean thoughts out of your mind. What remains are the things of God which bring life, healing, and peace.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8

When you find yourself overwhelmed by the terrible, negative situation you’re in, do battle! Put any unrighteous thoughts on lockdown (2 Corinthians 10:4-5) and think on holy, good things. You need to remind yourself of the goodness of God, the promises of God, and the blessings that await you in Heaven.

Happy Thoughts Are NOT Enough

Every good unicorn (or rhino) knows a phony when they see one. These imposters are only faking their positivity. Sure, sometimes you have to grin and bear it, but that is just for the short term. Happy thoughts are not enough. Instead, we’re talking about a renewed way of thinking!

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2

God, by the power of the Holy Spirit, can take your negative situation and transform it into something that is authentically positive. So, as you walk amongst the haters, posers and other downtrodden people, you are learning to canter to a different beat. In so doing, you will discover God’s good, pleasing and perfect will.

Use Your Will Daily

The journey of life is not for the weak of heart. Embracing the battlefield of the mind and allowing God to renew your thinking will help transform you to be authentically positive in any negative situation. There is one last component to remember; one last God-given super ability you possess. Your WILL.  

“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” – Colossians 3:1-2

Never underestimate the power of the human will. What you purpose in your heart, will become your reality. When you focus on godly things rather than the earthly junk around you, powerful things happen. You are transformed into a holy beast, able to overcome any obstacle in your way. This is a daily choice because every day has its own adversity. But, take joy because the victory is yours through Christ!

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” – Jesus

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What Did I Do to Deserve This?

What did I do to deserve this

What did I do to deserve this? Is God punishing me? Maybe this is all my fault. The mind can replay a looping slideshow of all the possible reasons for why you deserve your anguish. Because, truth be told, finding someone to blame offers some solace; even if the finger is pointed at you. Unfortunately, feelings of guilt can be a terrible plague for those who have suffered a life-changing injury. Thankfully, there is hope for those wrestling with the question of “What did I do to deserve this?”

Discerning God’s Judgment

If you feel like what you’re going through is God’s punishment…you’re not alone. Many people’s thoughts go here when trying to figure out the “why?” There are a few things we can examine to determine if there is any validity to this. And from what I’ve seen over many years of counseling people, it’s not likely your fault.

God Gives Warning

When we see God bring judgment in the bible, He first gives warning. Countless passages in the Bible (namely in the Old Testament) share how God tells people to change their ways. He warns them that if they do not, they will suffer a consequence. God doesn’t usually jump straight to discipline. He desires to bring about a changed behavior or heart. Because of this, He mercifully gives us warning so we can take right action. 

Did God warn you about something you were doing or not doing? Did some verses in the bible speak to you about sin? Did God send someone to you to address your behavior or choices? Remember Noah and the flood! For years, Noah preached to the wicked people, warning them of the coming judgment (2 Peter 2:5). If you haven’t gotten a warning from God, then don’t plague yourself with the question of “What did I do to deserve this?”

The Holy Spirit Convicts

Another way that God operates with His people is through direct conviction. John 16:8 says this about the Holy Spirt, “And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment…” If you are a born-again Christian, then God dwells in you so that you can know right and wrong. This is especially useful in all the little moral nuances of daily life.

Did the Holy Spirit convict you about any habitual sin? And yes, you would KNOW that God is convicting you. When God brings the conviction spotlight, the feeling is inescapable. It’s like a feeling of guilt and a knowledge of what you should do differently. If this happens to you, don’t ignore it. And, if you sincerely respond to any convictions He gives, then you shouldn’t wrestle with the question, “What did I do to deserve this?”

Bad Things Happen to Good People

There were some of Jesus’ disciples who saw a blind man and they asked Him whose sin caused the blindness. Jesus responds with, “Neither this man nor his parents sinned…but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in him.” (John 9:1-3). The bottom line, terrible things happen to even the best of people. Don’t assume that your pain and suffering is a judgment from God. 

We have an amazingly awesome and powerful God who is completely competent and able to let you know if and why He is disciplining you. Sometimes it’s just this broken world we live in! Remember Job? That was a guy who was considered righteous. However, he had so many terrible things happen to him and his family. If bad things happen to even good people, then you shouldn’t beat yourself up like you did something to cause your present situation.

God Wants to Work in Your Pain

God desires us to seek Him. Here are some questions for you: Where is your heart for God now? Are you wanting Him to meet you where you are? Are you wanting to wholeheartedly follow Him and press on? Are you beaten down and agonizing that there is something you’ve done and you deserve punishment? Don’t let yourself be robbed! You have an enemy who wants you to feel depressed and wallow in self-pity and misery. Fight it!

Pray to God right now and say, “Lord, my life is yours. I want this to be just the beginning of something truly great. I’m letting go of the past and will press on with you as I walk in righteousness with You as my guide!” Ok, so it doesn’t have to be that exact prayer, but I think you get the point. God is good and wants to work in your pain to bring about something amazing in you and through you. Look up from the darkness around you and you will see Him accomplish His plan. There is hope!

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How to Find Hope in the Hurt

Pain, grief, and heartache. These are just a few of the things we wrestle with when we suffer something cataclysmic. Many times, the mental and emotional battle is the worst part! Feelings of defeat, emptiness, and hopelessness can easily creep in and lead to depression. So where is the hope? Where does it come from?

And how can you find hope in the hurt when you’re basically in shock? Here are 3 things that have helped me, and many others, find hope in the hurt.

#1: God is Not Done with You

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.”

You do realize that you’re still alive, yes? I mean, here you are reading this and maybe wrestling with how to find hope in your hurt. Although your life may be forever changed, you still have life! Do you know that there are some people who walk around day by day without REALLY living? They float around aimlessly, taking for granted so many things or are completely unaware of what really matters in life. Here’s the thing: God isn’t done with you yet! And, if God isn’t done with you, then there’s more to come.

By the way, don’t forget that He works out all things for good. I know Romans 8:28 isn’t necessarily comforting on the surface, but it really IS a wonderful promise from the Big Man Upstairs. While I don’t know exactly what that looks like for you in this situation, I do know that God is good. He is an expert at bringing good out of the bad. Knowing in your gut that God is not done with you can certainly start bringing hope into your life for what is to come.

#2: Count your blessings

“I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.”

Do you know how hard it is to stay down on life when you have a grateful heart? It’s darn near impossible! Seriously, try it! The next time you feel the cold grip of hopelessness (maybe it’s right now) start finding things to be thankful for. Anything that comes to mind…let it rip! Maybe it’s a home to live in, food in your belly, friends, family, a pet, your mind, clean clothes, salvation…just keep going. 10-20 minutes of this and your perspective will start to shift. Do this regularly and it’ll become a habit; a good one.

Struggling to find things to be thankful for? Look around and start picking out what you see. Say, “Thanks God for ____.” It seems silly, but it works.  No, this doesn’t change the reality of your battle. However, it DOES help you to have perspective. I started practicing this years ago and have found positive change in my mind and heart. Maybe that’s why Ephesians 5:20 says we should “…always give thanks to God for everything.” Counting your blessings will help you to cultivate a mature, grateful and hopeful heart.

#3: Move forward

“Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me.”

Without a doubt, the more you look at what you don’t have (or the negative things in your life), the further you will travel down the long, hard road of hopelessness and despair. One of the most powerful ways to combat this is to be others minded. When you focus on others, you can’t be focused on yourself. And, you often will find the help you wanted all along while you are helping others.

Think about your family and friends. Does anyone need prayer, someone to listen to them, guidance, support, etc? How about striving to be a better husband/wife, father/mother, son/daughter, or friend? What about serving others in church? I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that there are needs within your church that aren’t being met. Just ask your pastor or leader how you can help. Once you start moving forward, hope follows.

Your Living Hope in the hurt

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,  to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, who by God's power are being guarded through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”

Some of the most hope-filled and joyous people that I’ve met are those who have gone through great adversity. Peter referenced “various trials” and yours will either make you bitter or better. Striving towards hope will help you acquire the latter. May you find yourself transformed as you: accept that God is not done with you, start counting your blessings, and begin looking for ways to move forward.Some of the most hope-filled and joyous people that I’ve met are those who have gone through great adversity.

Peter referenced “various trials” and yours will either make you bitter or better. Striving towards hope will help you acquire the latter. May you find yourself transformed as you: accept that God is not done with you, start counting your blessings, and begin looking for ways to move forward.

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The Truth About the 5 Stages of Grief


Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. In some way or another, you’ve most likely come across these 5 stages of grief from the studies of the late psychiatrist, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. These have been widely accepted and discussed for decades and have evolved a bit over the years. But, from a Christian point of view, what is the truth about the 5 stages of grief? Are they biblical? And how should a Christian go through their grief?

Emotional Hurdles

The emotions of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are, of course, very real. And if you’re reading this, there is no doubt you’ve experienced elements of each of these in your times of grief. Many people in the bible also experienced these kinds of emotions: Pharaoh denied God’s sovereignty as judge of his nation, Job was moved to anger in his suffering, Abraham bartered with God over Sodom and Gomorrah’s destruction, Jeremiah struggled with depression over the state of his people, and David came to a place of acceptance at the death of his baby with Bathsheba. Emotions are often powerful hurdles that must be addressed to overcome grief and experience true hope and healing. If this is you today…you’re not alone. But what is the path to healing?

The Path to Healing from grief

We all want to be able to recover from hardship and suffering: emotionally, relationally, physically, or all-of-the-above. While the 5 stages of grief are not meant to be linear stages, each of the stages aren’t necessarily a prerequisite to healing. Sure, if you’re harboring anger, for example, you won’t be able to come to a place of peace. However, the good news is that you may not have battle with each of the 5 stages on your path to healing. God desires for you to come out of your grief (Psalm 147:3). And yes, there IS a path out of grief; a path to healing. For some it is quick. Direct. Radical. For others, their path is a winding one with switchbacks and setbacks. No matter where you are in coping with your grief…get on the path to healing.


Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on His law he meditates day and night.
He is like a tree
planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season,
and its leaf does not wither.
In all that he does, he prospers.
- Psalm 1:1-3

What will be the length of your grief season? What will be the fruit of it? As you go through this season of grief, stay planted.

Grief and God: A Better Way

The truth about the 5 stages of grief, while not being overtly biblical, is there may be some merit to them. But more importantly, there is a way to bypass these natural reactions to suffering. You can find yourself moving through your season of grief like a whirlwind and come to a place of peace!

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
    and saves the crushed in spirit.
- Psalm 34:18

God wants to meet you in your grief. We have a loving Father who gave us His Son Jesus who continuously showed compassion for the hurting during His time on earth. God the Father also sent us the Holy Spirit to be our Comforter (John 14:26). Yes, God will grieve with you, God will work in your grief, God will bring you out of the grief…in due season. We live in a world that says hard things are to be passed over as quickly as possible or avoided completely. However, grief can also be a blessing as it can bring wisdom (Ecclesiastes 7:4). God has a better way.

Your Eternal Hope

Thankfully, as Christians we do not have to grieve like others in this world. Our faith in Jesus Christ can give us a hope like no other. We have been born again into a living hope (1 Peter 1:3-9) and our trials are nothing in comparison to what lays ahead for us in heaven.


What we are suffering now is nothing compared with our future glory
- Romans 8:18


Above all else, meditate on these biblical truths and verses. While you may be in a season of grief, cling to your eternal hope. Let God meet you in your place of suffering, bring you supernatural comfort, and bless you. You just may receive things you never could have gained otherwise. No matter if you’re in one of the “5 stages of grief” or in a season of grief, know that God loves you and will be with you and bring you to a place of rest and peace.

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How to Overcome Feeling Like a Burden

feeling like a burden

Feeling like a burden; Givers vs Takers

There are generally two types of people in this world: givers and takers.

Takers are lazy, unmotivated, and uninspiring people who often feel entitled to handouts. They thrive on special attention and emotional support from others. Takers will consistently leave you feeling emotionally , relationally, and even mentally drained…a burden to others.

“Wait for a second! Sometimes I’m in a place where I feel broken and in need.”

Everyone has seasons in their lives when they may receive more than they give. This is normal and not what I’m referring to.

Givers, on the other hand, are generally selfless, thoughtful, and nurturing people who genuinely care for the needs of others. Givers leave people feeling refreshed, encouraged, and strengthened.

So, which are you? A “giver” or a “taker”? Sure, like everyone else, you may fluctuate a bit, but how are you CHARACTERIZED? Follow my logic here: if you’re generally characterized as being a giver…then you’re NOT a taker. And if you’re not a taker, then…

…you are not a burden.

“Yeah, but I feel like a burden to my family and just society as a whole.”

I get that, but feelings can be deceptive. The good news is that we can learn and grow to understand God’s design for our lives with our family, friends, and society. This understanding is the first step to overcome feeling like a burden.

God’s Design:

“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him-a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” - Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

“Hey, that’s a verse for weddings!”

Well, yeah, this verse is often used to describe how a marriage should work, but it’s meant to be used in a more general sense for relationships. In these verses, God is saying that there is value in giving and receiving help and support. Work, struggles, needs, victories…these are all areas where we should be there for one another.

This is called being a good brother, sister, friend, etc. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of this in any given situation…we are designed to be there for one another. It’s biblical. Consider this:

“…God has put the body [church] together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.” -1 Corinthians 12:24-26

Again, God’s design is for us to minister to one another, to lean on each other in our times of need, and to help others in theirs. Let that sink in for a second…this is His design! If this is God’s design, then by nature it can’t be a burden! Think of all the times that giving AND RECEIVING is emphasized throughout scripture: widows and orphans, poor and needy, sick and infirm, etc (see Luke 5:17-26 and James 1:27).

Based on God’s design: You are not a burden

Jesus’ Example:

Jesus, God in physical form on this earth, cared for those around Him. He was surrounded by people with needs: physical, emotional, relational and spiritual. What did he do? He unconditionally cared for them with no mention of a time when He thought or felt someone was a burden.

Jesus ALWAYS had people with needs around Him: a bible study was interrupted by a paralyzed man being brought down through a roof, His traveling was interrupted by a woman who had constant bleeding, thousands of people around him needed food (twice)…Jesus was constantly being pulled in different directions and pushed to being overwhelmed with “ministry.”

Jesus didn’t complain. He didn’t berate them. He didn’t judge them. He didn’t see them as a burden.

If Jesus didn’t see them as a burden, He doesn’t see YOU as a burden. And if Jesus doesn’t see you as a burden, then…

Based on Jesus’ example: You are not a burden

By the way, many of the people Jesus poured into during their time of need became some of the BIGGEST givers. I would even say it is BECAUSE they were in a place of need that they could receive such amazing things…and to then, in turn, give to others.

Moving forward:

Know your identity: If you know who you are in Christ, then you know you’re not a burden. Walk-in this knowledge daily.

Know your enemy: Satan will lie to you and tell you that you are a burden (1 Peter 4:8 and John 8:44). Learn to recognize his lies.

Know your weapons: Be sure to pray for the right thoughts, emotions, and actions when it comes to being a burden. You’re in a battle so be sure to use your weapons.

Remember…you are not a burden! You are not defined by what you can’t do.  Your identity is in Christ! You have lots to give and in ways that only YOU can fulfill it. God has work for you to accomplish! You’re a giver, not a taker! As you freely receive from God…freely give!

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How to Find Peace in the Storm

How to find Peace in the storm

Looking for peace in the storm?

“We’re gonna die!” you hear your friend scream above the loud crash of a wave as it slams into the side of your fishing boat. The small craft groans and creaks as it gets twisted and pushed in the water. Coldwater sprays your face as you grab a nearby bucket and feverishly attempt to scoop water out to keep from sinking. “Where did this storm come from?” you ask yourself as you brace for yet another incoming wave. The wind howls menacingly through the black sky with an occasional flash of lightning revealing a handful of men scrambling to keep the boat from capsizing. “Where…where is he?” you scream at the top of your lungs. “I don’t see him! Did he fall overboard?” Frantically you look around only to find your dear friend asleep in the back of the boat! You rush over in disbelief that a man could possibly be sleeping during the worst storm you’ve ever seen. After waking him up, he stands, wipes his groggy eyes, and calmly says, “There’s no need to be afraid.” And with that, he speaks as if talking to the storm itself. Within mere seconds the clouds dissipate, the wind ceases, and the waters become as smooth as glass.

True story.

Storms in life are inevitable. And while there are times when you may face a literal storm, I’m obviously speaking about storms of the symbolic type. Loss of employment, loss of family, spinal cord injury…maybe even all 3 of these…or more. These storms are real. The emotions, mental turmoil, and strained relationships are REAL. And let’s face it, “peace” does not come naturally in such situations.

So, how do you find peace when the storm hits?

While there are no “3 easy steps to obtaining peace” I believe that we can learn a few things from the real-life event I described in the beginning. It comes from Mark 4:35-41 and I hope it changes your life as it has changed my own. So…

Here are 3 easy steps to obtaining peace:

  1. Don’t freak out:

Easier said than done, right? Your life just got upended with a life-altering SCI and you might be asking yourself “Why did this happen to me?” Well, I suppose Jesus’ disciples were asking the same question when that storm came out of nowhere. I mean, technically, they were just following Jesus’ command when they set sail in the first place and then, WHAM! They were fearing for their life. They even shouted at him, “Don’t you care?”

Maybe that’s you. You’re frustrated and wrestling with whether or not God cares. Well, while you’re contemplating this, freaking out doesn’t help. Actually, panicking (while natural) doesn’t help with anything. You won’t think clearly, you’ll behave irrationally, and it will make it very difficult to move forward. So…take some time to breathe, pray and get your bearings.

You’re going to get through this.

  1. Find Jesus:

The next thing we can see the disciples do when they were in their storm was to go find Jesus. Thankfully, they had the presence of mind in that chaos to go find the one guy who could help. For the record, don’t feel like you must have some “proper” prayer form when you talk to God…just be sure to do it. The disciples who ran to Him at this moment were terrified and it’s not like they were super calm when they spoke to Jesus.

Be authentic. Share your frustrations (He already knows about it). Listen. You’re in a storm…you need to find Jesus. If you don’t…you’ll sink…or worse. Don’t be that guy (or gal), you’re better than that and it doesn’t matter if you’re a fighter or not; Jesus IS! Run to Him! You’ll want Him on your side.

  1. Take it one day at a time:

Look at what happened after those on the ship ran to Jesus. One moment there were waves, lightning, thunder, turmoil, and then…peace. Jesus is a game-changer! Were they still in the boat? Yes. Did they still have a journey ahead? Yes. Could they move forward each step with Jesus at their side? Heck yes.

Getting your eyes off your situation (don’t freak out) and then putting them on Jesus (find Jesus) doesn’t mean that everything magically gets better. But it DOES mean that each day you can live with the creator of heaven and earth by your side. Don’t trivialize this. If you really think about it, it’s pretty darn cool. No, it doesn’t make it any easier necessarily, but it DOES mean that you get to…

Take life one day at a time and ENJOY it.

And, when you can get to a place of taking it one day at a time, you just might find that you’ve found that peace you’ve been looking for.

The battle is NOT won with a “how-to” blog:

Ultimately, peace can not happen for you unless you have determined to receive it. There is no question that peace is there, ripe for the picking. There are countless bible verses that reference the peace of God which is freely given to those who are God’s people (for example Philippians 4:6-7). I fully believe that the above 3 steps are important steps to take. They will help free you up to receive God’s peace. However, if you’re not willing to receive Him and His love…you will not obtain His peace. Heart check.

But, that’s not you, right? I mean, you’ve read this blog all the way to the end and you’re still with me. So…maybe it’s time to take steps 1 or 2. Ready? GO!

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Why Does God Heal Some and Not Others?

Why does god heal

Why does God heal?

Then Jesus turned to the paralyzed man and said, “Stand up, pick up your mat, and go home! And immediately, as everyone watched, the man jumped up, picked up his mat, and went home praising God. (Luke 5:24-25)

One man was there who had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and knew that he had already been there a long time, he said to him, “Do you want to be healed? … Jesus said to him, “Get up, take up your bed, and walk.” And at once the man was healed, and he took up his bed and walked. (John 5:5-9)

I don’t know about you, but when I read verses like these, I can get frustrated Why Does God Heal?  Do I WANT to be made well? Really? Of course I do! The fact remains, there are hundreds of thousands of people living with chronic or permanent conditions or injuries. So, why do only a small fraction of these get a “Yes” from the Big Man when it comes to being healed?

God is not our get-well genie:

I know it sounds harsh, but the reality is that God does not owe it to us, or anyone, to provide healing. Never forget that the only thing we truly deserve is punishment for our sins. It is only by the grace of God that we are forgiven and made co-heirs of Heaven. Considering that we bring nothing to the table when it comes to our salvation, this is quite the deal of the lifetime!

When you’re struggling with God on the issue of not being healed, it is good to at least start from a place of having the right perspective. Consider what Paul writes in Romans 11:33-36

Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and how inscrutable His ways! For who has known the mind of the Lord, or who has been His counselor? Or who has given a gift to Him that He might be repaid? For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever. Amen.

Bottom line, God is above all things and over all things. His thoughts and ways are above our own. “To Him be glory forever.”

You are made for the glory of God

Did you catch the last verse there? This life we live is not our own…it is for HIS glory. Heck, it never was really ours to begin with! Is it possible that God is best glorified in your life THROUGH your infirmities? Don’t get me wrong…pray for healing. Have the church pray. Seek the Lord on this! But remember that whatever happens…

You were bought with a price and you are made for HIS glory.

The apostle Paul was not unfamiliar to suffering. Even though he was handpicked by God to be His representative and passionately followed Him from that day forth, even he had pain and hardship to deal with daily. Side note: following God doesn’t exempt you from the junk of life.

Here is what Paul wrote about regarding one of his areas of suffering:

So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to harass me, to keep me from becoming conceited. Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me.  And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.  Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

(2 Corinthians 12:7-10)


Bible commentators believe this “thorn in the flesh” was his either his losing his sight, having ongoing physical ailments from being beaten many times, or a constant tormenting of a demon. Whatever it was, Paul’s ailment was a big deal.

Notice the steps Paul took:

  1. He prayed for deliverance until God answered
  2. He accepted God’s answer
  3. He received God’s strength to endure
  4. He chose to embrace his affliction and glorify God in and through it

God heals some people...for His glory. God doesn’t heal others (and maybe that’s the group you’re in)…for His glory. It can even be through this suffering that God gets the MOST glory.

So…what are you doing today to LIVE for HIS glory?

No one wants to be paralyzed or go through any kind of suffering for that matter. And, you may be a ways off from being able to say “Hey, I’m gonna live for God’s glory and embrace all this.” But, could you at least be open to letting God move in your heart? Could you ask God to help open your eyes to see how He may want to use you?  There IS hope.

Some good news…

God loves you. God has a plan for you. God will work out ALL things together for GOOD (Romans 8:28). That’s His promise, not mine. Are you looking for the good in all this? Pray for God to reveal it to you. Cling to His promise. Live for His glory!

And, might I remind you that there is coming a day when there will be no more pain or suffering (Rev 21:4). Not only this, but we, as God’s children, get glorified, resurrected bodies to fully experience life in heaven (2 Corinthians 12:35-44).  There ARE great days to come!

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